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She was so excited to start Martial Arts 3 years ago. It was a surprising choice of sport for such a girly girl but she enjoyed it and progressed from Kid Kickers to the adult program in the Summer of 2010. She made it through the anxiety of moving into a new class with the gentle coaxing and support of her very hands-on karate *leader* and proved that she could hold her own against a predominantly older male class.
She pushed through a knee injury and a hernia both of which momentarily knocked her confidence, but somewhere along the way the focus of the school shifted from nurturing the students to making as much money as possible. Constant reorganization left me doubting the program and Ella was increasingly lacking in enthusiasm. for the sport she once loved.
In June 2012 Ella earned her last belt, brown with black stripe, in Martial Arts. We did not know this at the time. Ella’s intention was to make it to black belt but she had also made it clear that she would quit the Art shortly thereafter. She never practiced outside of class, she was often seen goofing around in class and it became increasingly apparent that Martial Arts had become more of a social occasion for her.
With Red Belt testing just around the corner there was increasing pressure for her to move
into the Premier club and attend class more than twice a week. As soon as she had decided this is something she wanted to do, she ended up back on crutches following an incident on the school bus. A new knee injury kept her out of class for a couple of weeks during which I struggled to justify the expense of getting her to black belt and if indeed she would even make it at such a young age. Ella has always been known for her reluctance to challenge her body physically and I knew the Black Belt training would probably be too much for her.
We made the decision together over a period of several weeks to ensure it was ultimately her decision. She had the choice to continue but the deal was that she had to commit to 3 classes a week instead of 2. She was unwilling to do it so we’re taking an extended break with option of returning to Martial Arts when she is older if and when she wants to.
I commend her for sticking with this goal for the past 3 years but for her I think it was more about not wanting to disappoint than the fact she wanted to be a black belt. It takes perseverance and discipline to finish something you are not completely invested in. It is very important to her not to be seen as a quitter but I think sometimes there is something even more courageous about recognizing when it's time to quit. We are so very proud of you E. and all you have accomplished on this Martial Arts adventure.